You’ve heard it before, “You can’t tell anyone, but…”… most often this is a tidbit of information that has hurt someone, would hurt someone, or will hurt someone… and my friends, it will always come back to haunt us. Often times it isn’t in the moment, but the future when we look back at a situation as we heard it and realize that we propelled it beyond truth, to a place of speculation and lies.
Our family has experienced times and situations like this more times than I am comfortable with. A family striving to look like Jesus, who still gets caught on the cracks in the sidewalk and face plants right there; in front of an audience. We all feel guilty, we all look guilty and the real kicker… we are guilty. In a moment where we could encourage someone to hide that secret, or confidence within their heart, lifting whatever it is up to the Father instead of sharing it; we latch on and not only do we hear it, we then share it. Do we intend to share it? I believe most people upon hearing it are already forming in their mind who they should “tell this too”. We are learning the hard way what it is to cover a transgression by seeking love. When I contemplate this, I think, “Mel, what does it mean to seek love here”? Some things need to see the light and others need to stay right where they are, to give love to someone who upon hearing of the transgression we may “judge for ourselves” that they aren’t worthy of someone covering them, however the Bible tells us something different.
Back in Genesis 9… yep all the way back Noah had such an incident occur:
20 And Noah began to be a farmer, and he planted a vineyard. 21 Then he drank of the wine and was drunk, and became uncovered in his tent. 22 And Ham, the father of Canaan, saw the nakedness of his father, and told his two brothers outside. 23 But Shem and Japheth took a garment, laid it on both their shoulders, and went backward and covered the nakedness of their father. Their faces were turned away, and they did not see their father’s nakedness.
24 So Noah awoke from his wine, and knew what his younger son had done to him. 25 Then he said: “Cursed be Canaan; A servant of servants He shall be to his brethren.”
26 And he said: “Blessed be the Lord, The God of Shem, And may Canaan be his servant.
27 May God enlarge Japheth, And may he dwell in the tents of Shem; And may Canaan be his servant.”
The beauty of what we see here, is that Shem and Japheth not only honored their father, they didn’t spread the “secret” around. They immediately went into action to cover their father’s transgression. Today, when someone says those tempting words, “You can’t tell anyone… ” quickly, immediately do as Shem and Japheth, cover the transgression and encourage the speaker to do so as well.
“Lord, we thank you that you give us mercy when we don’t deserve it. Teach us to cover others transgression out of love for them and ultimately you. Guide us in our relationships with others that they will be lasting, honest and true to you. Help us to grow in relationship with you, that we would know you more and look more like you. Amen!”